Today is the start of a new week, National Stalking Awareness Week 2017 is over.

Despite this, it is still vital that we continue to push the message at every opportunity that stalking is a serious crime with the potential to end in tragedy. Some of us have known this for years yet our voices not loud enough to change attitudes. Changing laws has been relatively much easier!

We still have a long way to go in educating those who need it on the fact that anyone not taking a victim seriously – be it police, CPS, courts, prison or probation – has the potential to leave them with the prospect of an inquest and inquiry. It goes without saying that the victim will be already suffering psychologically from the terror of being stalked.

It is vital that a victim is taken seriously from that first report.  They are already feeling paranoid, stupid and are minimising what is happening to try to rationalise it.   It is likely the stalking has been happening for a while.

If a victim is asking for help, go back to basics, look at the evidence and behaviour of the alleged perpetrator; are these actions from a reasonable person? Or are they someone who seems obsessed, is their life preoccupied with their victim? Use those checklists and trust your instinct – do not just rely on a list of tick boxes.

Join the dots…put the acts together, don’t separate out 3 acts of criminal damage, breach of the peace etc… join them together to prove a course of conduct.

Let’s start looking at stalking as a prelude to murder, we have come so far since I first went public in 1995, but we still have a long way to go. Back then I was virtually a lone voice, now there are many other voices joining the chorus and doing amazing work.  Please let’s continue in harmony so that our voices can be heard and lives saved.


Stalking Matters #NSAW17

April 27, 2017

When Nashville, USA introduced stalking legislation, their murder rate dropped by 50%.

Now there is evidence of a link, the UK needs to start looking at stalking behaviour as a prelude to violence and murder, then our fatality rate will go down too.

TO everyone who works in or with the Criminal Justice agencies:

Please ACT fast to prevent lives being damaged or destroyed.

Please ACT.


94% Matters #NSAW17

April 26, 2017

So finally there is evidence that stalking can and does lead to violence/murder according to the latest Suzy Lamplugh Trust research.

About 15 years ago, when I led the Network for Surviving Stalking, we, together with Dr Lorraine Sheridan then at Leicester University, tried to undertake a similar piece of research to prove that there was a link. 

Of all the police forces, only 3 responded saying that of their murder cases, none were linked to stalking behaviour.

It is great to finally see the link recognised that stalking can lead to murder.

It is now time for the police and criminal justice agencies to ACT and put in place effective training and awareness so that lives will be saved.



Contact The National Stalking Helpline:

0808 802 0300

If it’s busy it means people are getting help, please keep trying!

If you feel in imminent danger, just dial 999





Coercive Control Book

December 27, 2015

Jennifer Perry at The Digital Trust @Digital_Trust_ has written a great book on Coercive Control.  Here’s the link to it : Coercive Control Book


Recently the Home Office announced a consultation on Stalking Protection Orders and welcomed input.  Please do go to the consultation and answer the questions as soon as possible as it closes in January.

Consultation on Stalking Protection Orders

It’s the UK’s National Stalking Awareness Week from 20th April.

In February it was 20 years since I first went public with my case to highlight to loophole in the law because there was nothing, legally, to stop my stalker from terrorising me.

Since then we have seen 2 laws and a myriad of initiatives purporting to be better for victims, yet still, the messages  – or myths – are the same. Examples such as;

  • That you have to be a celebrity or good looking to have a stalker
  • That you should be flattered or feel lucky to have the attention (yes, really)
  • That nothing can be done until they physically attack you
  • That because the perpetrator is retired they can’t arrest.

The list goes on….

Don’t get me wrong; we have come on in huge leaps and bounds with regards to understanding and dealing with stalking; however we still have a long way to go… Changing 2 laws was easy compared with changing attitudes!

If you are being stalked, you are feeling terrified, helpless, not knowing what is going to happen at any moment.  You are feeling stupid and paranoid because you don’t want to bother anyone because they are ‘not doing anything harmful’.  People around you might be saying “Don’t be paranoid”, “Ignore them and they’ll go away” (sometimes they do, but sometimes they don’t so you have to learn which it will be and trust your instinct)

But they are affecting you!  They are affecting your health, it could be physical or mental, your life – it might be that you start changing your route to work, are fearful of answering the phone, looking at your emails, and people around you can be affected too; lives can be destroyed. From the research I did with Lorraine Sheridan in 2005, an AVERAGE of 21 people around the primary victim were affected.  A very high percentage of victims have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, although it’s not necessarily over, so the word ‘Post’ should be ‘Persistent’ in PTSD for stalking victims; where does it end?

People have said to me that we are criminalising romance, but if you ARE flattered by the attention of someone, not feeling fearful or distressed then it’s not stalking!  The issue is about crossing over from feeling flattered and loved, to when you don’t want the attention and say ‘no thanks’… but they don’t stop, you start to feel terrified and worried about what will happen, then that is stalking.

Sadly, we know all too well, the lives of those lost because they didn’t realise the danger of being stalked, the criminal justice agencies did not understand the problem and the dangers around being stalked.

20 years on from being a lone voice speaking out, we now have many more victims and professionals with a better understanding of this terror doing so.  We just need to carry on educating people in the criminal justice and health agencies and all the other departments who are involved in keeping people safe (councils; Social Services, Housing etc…), as well as the general public and the Government to better understand the consequences of not taking stalking seriously, of ignoring a victim’s intuition or pleas for help. The police have been leading the way, especially with ACC Garry Shewan as National Police Lead.  Garry gets it, he understands and has worked tirelessly to educate police and other agencies to better respond to cases.  However, changing individual’s attitudes towards the subject is an uphill battle.  There are other fantastic people across the country who understand and do their best for victims; it’s just those who still believe that they are dealing with a minor, nuisance crime, their victims feel isolated and the feeling that they are going mad is reinforced by those who should be helping them; the terror is doubled because when you go for help, you need people to believe you, otherwise what are you to do, where do you go for help?

The Suzy Lamplugh Trust with the National Stalking Helpline are the leaders in understanding the victim perspective.  They were there at the start and, together with Diana Lamplugh, I launched the campaign for stalking legislation in the UK in 1996 on the back of a documentary on my case made by Yorkshire Television.

On the whole, the media have been brilliant in bringing to the public’s attention, as it’s vital that stalking is not portrayed as a bit of a joke.  My heart sinks when I see something which undoes our work.  Recently Gary Barlow asked people to stalk him on Twitter.  I understood what he meant, it was just the wrong choice of words.  It trivialises what is a serious and terrifying crime.  I always say that stalking is mental rape, so should anyone make a joke about stalking, replace that word with rape and see how funny it is.  If lovely Gary B had said ‘come and rape me’, what would have been the reaction?  He put himself at risk because there may well be people who see that as a green light to pursue relentlessly and terrify him and his family.  The first stalking law in the world came to being in 1990 (California) because of the murder of an actress.  But it is people not in the public eye who are most at risk. If there has been any sort of relationship between perpetrator and victim the risk goes up.  It is well known that ex-partners are the most at risk.

10 years ago I tried to get an Awareness Month in the UK, several magazines were fab and put articles in for me.  Unfortunately, there were not the people nor support around that there is now, so I ask that whomever you are, if you are able to (victims put their lives at risk by doing so, no pressure should be placed on them) PLEASE, speak out, shout it from the rooftops and smash the myths around stalking to help save lives.

Go to to see all that’s happening this week and watch a video all about it.

Heartfelt thanks to those who are speaking out, who are doing something about it and to those who are saving lives.

Very proud to know Claire Waxman, who has launched a campaign to help get victims of crime justice in the justice system.  At every turn, we all feel that a perpetrators rights come above that of their victims, which effectively means lives are put at risk, and victims are made to feel they don’t matter.  Despite a number of governments purporting to put victims more central to the system, injustices are still taking place every day in courts throughout the country.  Claire, myself and many like us want that changed.  Here is her website, please support it: Follow the campaign on Twitter: @voice4victims

Very pleased to see Sara Payne’s recommendations on the criminal justice system, totally agree with her comments on the way the criminal justice system needs to change.
It does, however raise a couple of questions:
1. How many times do the Government need to hear these recommendations? As a Lay Member of the first Home Office Victims Advisory Panel in 2003, we were able to sit across the table from ministers such as Lord Falconer, Baroness Scotland, Fiona Mactaggart, Harriet Harman et. al. and tell them exactly the same thing over and over again for 3 years.
2. In light of this report, surely it’s time to look at why millions of pounds of Government money are given to Victim Support regularly who are clearly not providing effective support and don’t seem to have an understanding of what victims needs are.

Tracey’s being interviewed by Lorraine Kelly on GMTV on Monday 28th Sept